LOCK NY

Upstate NY Kink & BDSM Education Community

LOCK is Upstate New York’s premier 18+ BDSM and kink education organization.
We host monthly classes, socials, and skill-building events for people at every experience level. From curious beginners to seasoned kink practitioners - everyone is met where they are with respect, clarity, and informed consent.

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  • Consent Comes First

    LOCK is a consent-based community focused on education, safety, and connection.
    We follow the NCSF definition of informed consent:
    “Consent is an informed, voluntary agreement by two or more people to engage in a particular BDSM activity or dynamic.”

    Every event, class, and interaction begins here.

  • Events & Education

    Events & Education

    We offer a wide range of BDSM classes and social events throughout the year, including:

    - Fire play and wax play workshops
    - Rope and bondage skill-building
    - Flogging and impact technique classes
    - Monthly munches and socials
    - Movie nights, demos, and community meetups

    Our events are designed to help you learn, grow, and find community safely.

  • Inclusive. Respectful. Community-Driven.

    LOCK welcomes people of all genders, races, identities, abilities, and orientations.
    We respect your pronouns and your personhood.

    We do not welcome:

    - Racism
    - Anti-LGBTQIA+ rhetoric
    - Anti-vaccine ideology
    - Disrespectful or predatory behavior

    If you believe in consent, respect, and community… you belong here.

Ready to Join?

You’re one step away from connecting with a vetted, welcoming, kink-positive community.

Learn about our vetting process, expectations, and how to attend your first event.

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